Its important to be a good example.

Good Morning peeps. Happy father’s day to all dads. I could stop here but you know me, i always have a story to tell.

We have two sons and two daughters. Being a dad comes with a whole lot of responsibility and no owners manual.

Kids are born with this built in ‘wanna be just like my parents’ instinct and therefore we should be good examples.

“Instinct or innate behavior is the inherent inclination of a living organism toward a complex behaviour” Wikipedia.

As fathers and along the journey and if we have the awareness we can pick and choose characteristics from our parents we want to emulate and filter out others we don’t want to pass on to our kids, but its not easy, in fact it takes a lot of hard work. Imagine if you had a rotten dad, your job as a parent would probably be a lot more difficult.

The choices we make directly impact our kids instincts for the rest of their lives. How many times have you heard your adult children say, ‘but you did it too dad’.

I became aware of my responsibilities as a father at a very early stage. Having had great parents helped.  Repetition of positive messages was always foremost on my mind. No, im not perfect and made lots of mistakes but today i observe my kids instinctively teaching their kids the lessons i thought them without being fully aware of it.

I didnt know my dad’s dad, but I heard a lot of stories about him. I heard he was a story teller just like my dad. Gosh my dad could tell stories, maybe one day ill tell you his version of how he met my mom. There is a story that my dad told us about how he got to St Kitts, he said he swam from Anguilla on his back because he could not afford to take a boat. I told my kids a similar story except i swam to Toronto. I don’t know for sure but id hazard a guess that my grandfather swam from Ireland to Anguilla, killing sharks along the way, rejecting offers to be rescued by passing boats. Its a family tradition. My dad swam on his back, his suitecase on his stomach away from the water to keep it dry. My story was even more grandeur.

Swimming from Toronto to Calgary would be quite an adventure. Cant wait for my sons to have kids. Its a male thing.

When i was growing up my dad never participated in my sports activities. To him not working was a waste of time. He didn’t have to, he was still my hero and yes i did some filtering. He had little education but he was very successful in business and a great provider and as it turned out he was the quintessential helicopter parent. Back then we called it something else.

I was 13 when i went to high school. I can remember having to hide from my dad after school so i could be with my friends. It took him a while to let go and to get the messsge that he did not have to pick me up after school. It was embarrassing.

I remember quite vividly how I wanted so badly to be like him. Of course i didn’t realize that i didn’t have to try, those instincts, some filtered, were already part of me and now they are part of my children. Im sure they also have ‘not like dad’ filters, we are all human.

Here is a tough question.

Would you be proud if your kids were like you? Be completely honest, if you said no or you are not sure and you have small children you still have time.

Remember your kids instinctively look up to you, so make it count.

Happy father’s day. Ill go check to see if those rotten kids gave me any gifts.

As always

Dont forget to greet a total stranger today.

 

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Getting old is all in the head.

Good morning peeps. They say getting old is all in your head, i say it shows up when you run also.

Yesterday morning i set out to go for a run. I walked the first 100m to get a little warmed up. At the end of  the 100m is a fork in the road where i had to make a decision, left or right, left is a downhill and right is an incline, either way will bring me back to the fork.

Coming along the track was a older guy, he was going to my right, up hill, i decided to follow him. It didnt take long for me to realize the old dude was fit. I was half way up the  climb when he disappeared.

The idea was to have someone help me set a pace. Normally i go out with Jo who is not much of a runner so i look like a champion running with her.

The next guy that went by was a marathoner for sure. Decided not to even try.

I was going along at my pace, its funny when you are running other runners acknowledge you. Its like ‘yea i feel your pain’. I wonder if it was that obvious. Ive never actually seen myself run, to me i look like the wind, if i had hair it would be a specticle to observe.

At about a mile or so i heard someone behind me, i looked back, there was this young woman pushing a baby going at a good clip. Haha i can do this.

As she was going past, its like she knew what i was thinking, she looked at me and i can swear she said, ‘try to keep up old man’.

Why did she think i was old? Was it the way i was running? Maybe she saw the agony in my face.

Ill stick to running with Jo she makes me look good.

As always

Dont forget to greet a total stranger today.

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When there is plenty you must still decide.

Good Morning peeps. Jo is away, this morning i made my shake and went in the backyard to enjoy the beautiful weather. The plants are looking great and the hedge is coming along nicely. Birds are my favourite next to female humans to look at.

In my neighbour’s yard there is a shed with some lattice work on the back of it, which attracts a lot of birds. Its like a lovers lane for birds. Great place to observe their behaviour.

As im looking there is this lil guy, he has his eyes on this one chicky bird. He is dancing, fluffing his feathers doing his thing. It appears that she is not interested in him, everytime he gets too close she hops away. The dude is not giving up.

Just a few feet away from him there is another female who seem to have the hots for him. I believe she thought he was coming on to her with his bird dance and she was definitely interested. I think she is doing everything to get his attention but he is totally ingoring her.

Well female bird number one flies off. Poor guy. That is when he tried to acknowledge female number 2. It was around the same time female number 2 sees male number 2 just above her. He was silently observing the goins on. All he had to do was one bird wing shimmy, she was sold, she was so worked up she went off with him. Trallop was my first thought.

Sounds like a human story, have been there many times.

Not being a bird whisperer i can only surmise male bird number one was inexperienced, male bird number two simply allowed him to do all the foreplay knowing ‘a bird in the hand is worth two in the bush’.

As always

Dont forget to greet a total stranger today.

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It was no biggie

Good Morning peeps. Folks im here is say it was no biggie. I hear a lot of stories about people speeding on their way and getting a ticket. If you are lucky the cop will escort you. Husbands and wife get into knots trying to make decisions. It can be stressful for some people. I always ask why. Everthing happens in its own time.

Then you get there and wait. After all that fussing, putting your life at risk and nothing. Can be quite fustrating.

Like no body business then it happens, slippo out it comes and you start to count, 10 10 2 2 1 1. Yes perfect just like you planned it.

Me i went to bed, slept like a baby, didnt know a thing. When i got up this morning found out im a grandpa. Absolutely no stress. The dude has class.

Oh yea my daughter is fine.

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Dont forget to greet a total stranger today.

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Rain rain go away

Good Morning peeps. About 3 weeks ago i turned on my lawn sprinker to try and stimulate the grass to grow, it was brown, oh how i wished it would rain.

Well it started to rain a few days later and it has not stopped and its all my fault, yes i wished it would rain.

Why stop now, since im on a roll i wish for a Mustang Shelby on fathers day.

Rain rain go away and come again another day.

Opps, I didnt mean that, you never know who is listening.

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Dont forget to greet a total stranger today

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My new way of living

Good Morning peeps. Today im cleansing, have not eaten since yesterday evening and i wont eat untill Monday morning. Just fluids and some stuff Jo gives me. I try to do it once a month.

I could have never imagined i would be saying what i just said. I have ‘dieted’ before but its really hard to do. When i started on my current path of a healthy lifestyle, i wanted to approach it differently. It took me 30 years plus to get to where i was. How do you undo that?

I started slowly, going from my daily 4 cups of coffee to 3 then 2 then finally i was able to stop the craving. Same thing with bread, eggs and rice. The plan was never to stop eating these things entirely, just to break the ‘craving’ habits. I would eat lots of eggs, could not get enough.

Since i broke these lifetime habits of craving certain foods, which took several months, i am now able to have a coffee with my friends and not  ‘need’ another, same with the eggs, boiled. I try to stay away from the bread and white rice and fry foods, but for a different reason and id be lying if i said i dont sneak once in a while.

Some things may take another lifetime to overcome, the secret is control. I have not yet quite mastered the Corona bad habit. Im human.

One of the first things the doctors ask you to cut out when you show up in his office with arthritis is rice and bread. Im on a preventative plan, damn i just had a craving.

An educational institution in England, Oxford I think, did some research and report that most men, something like 90% would not admit they were on a diet. I can understand why, people make fun of you. Just over 50% would admit to working out in the gym.

Today im too old to care what people think, but its quite sad. I am at the size i was when i was in my mid 20’s and folks tells me i need to eat more, go figure. For my birthday Jo gave me some stylish body shirts, nice, she says i should show off my body. I was expecting a Mustang Shelby.

Want to hear something interesting, Jo has turned this healthy lifestyle thing into a business. She has been able to convince 30 plus folks to join her, only two of the 6 men actually lasted 2 weeks, one is me, the other lost 60lbs. Some of those 30 plus folks convince others and now her organization is now well over 200. She is on a mission to make a difference in peoples health.

We have found that men are more prone to peer pressure when it comes to diet and exercise.

Some people say what Jo is doing is a pyramid scheme. I say who cares, we have loads of energy, we walk between 3 and 5 miles every other day, i climb 12 floors twice a day at work, she does the gym every other day, went from a size 14 back to a size 4, same size she was when we met and we sleep like babies. I say its a good scheme and we get two free meals each daily.

We share it with other people. Its more like a quick ‘to good health’ scheme.

So here i am, people are always asking if i plan to eat like that (2 protein shakes a day and one regular meal), for  the rest of my life, I say why not. Although i can cheat a little, you dont get fat or skinny overnight.

Here are some facts about my day, the two shakes total less than 500 calories with plenty muscle building Whey protein. Each meal takes around 7 minutes to prepare and consume. Sometimes i have to remember to have lunch because i am not hungry. That leave me between 1200 and 1400 calories short from the recommended daily intake.

I so look forward to supper.

Jo is a great cook and we eat out once a week. Yes we tend to pig out a little although we do include lots of fruits and vegetables.

Its all good and Jo will be happy to explain it to you if you were interested in this win win healthy lifestyle ‘pyramid’ scheme.

If that sounded like a commercial, sorry, ill be back to my normal self tomorrow.

As always

Dont forget to greet a total stranger today.

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