What kind of woman do you like to date?

Good Morning peeps. When i get tired of sitting at work i sometimes go for a walk. Depending on how much time i have my walk would vary accordingly. I dont have specific hours for work, i show up early and leave early and walk when i get the urge, i generally stay at work for 9 to 9.5 hours but who is counting.

A week ago Thursday, I decided a 30 minutes visit to Calgary Devonian gardens (Calgary best public space) was in order. It was around lunch time so i thought maybe i would go there, sit and look at people go back and forth. I love observing people, especially people who don’t want to be observed. I bet I get my picture taken lots of time, as everyone take pictures there.

I often wonder if most people have the same experiences as i do or you have to be looking for them like i do. haha.

Once i got fairly deep in the garden, I sat on a wall away from everyone which gives me a wide vision of the folks around me. After about 10 minutes of just relaxing, a couple came and sat 2 or 3 feet away from me, quite within ear shot.

Yes i like to eavesdrop also but not in a gossipy way though. I am a curious person. The conversation was friendly enough, so i ignore them, Then:

She: ‘what are you looking for in woman?’ Bingo.

He:’well let me think….. she must be smart……’

He went in to describe this person i would have to consider for myself if she was available. I love my wife but..

Haha kidding. I have to say that, she reads my blog.

I was not sure what he was thinking. If he was looking for a date, it was not going to happen. In my young days I would have answered that question with three words.

‘someone like you’ and put on my million dollar smile. Love my odds better.

Anyway they continued to chat for a while, i thought he was too aggresive got bored and left. He ain getting any was my last impression.

As i walked away i took a look back to get a look at them. She was no beauty but he was the beast. In life though there is someone for everyone.

Yesterday i went back to the same spot and guess what, yes a couple sat down next to me. I had to look, same woman different guy. Hmmmm, same question, this guy was a little shy, would not want to be in his fantasy.

If you are West Indian you probably remember a calypso where a couple was in a hotel room and as the busboy was walking by he heard them talking, they were debating who should be on top. He got so curious he looked through the key hole and witness them trying to close a suitcase by sitting on it. Sometimes things are not what they first appear to be.

Like the busboy i got curious and scooted over a little closer. I sat there for 20 minutes listening. Very intense conversation.

At the end she said to him, Ill add your profile to our database and see what match comes up. Good one, a dating service.

The gardens is also used for weddings, maybe she does both. If i ever see her alone ill be having a friendly conversation with her.

As always

Don’t forget to greet a total stranger today.

One step forward, then do it again.

Good Morning peeps. Do you find you put off a lot of things you should not. Me, I am actually the king of ‘put-off‘, honestly I sometimes wonder how i get anything done.

You may recall that back in January, I said one of my goals for 2013 is to get some Abs. If you don’t remember i will understand, after all you spend your time actually doing things. Anyhow, the plan was to exercise until they show up. The Abs that is.

I am almost 62 years old and i don’t recall ever having Abs so it was an ambitious goal, probably unbelievable, but what the heck, I want Abs.

Jo, my wife convinced me to go on a protein diet, she calls it a life transformation experience, she said it will help me to lose my visceral fat, that’s the kind that hangs around your stomach,  while building muscle. Lo and behold the damn thing works. Lost a bunch of fat and i am energetic as a teenager. I know what you are thinking, but don’t go there.

I had my annual physical exam and the doctor told me to continue doing whatever i am doing, he says my health is great.

Ok back to my exercise. I had promise to start exercising at the same time i started my life transformation. Well that didnt happen. What to do, what to do. I remember something i read a long time ago, that is, if you want to accomplish something say it and keep repeating it until it’s achieved. Just do it.

So here is what im going to do, starting today and for the next 10 weeks ill blog about my daily physical activities, the ones i can write about. Hopefully telling you will help me to get over my ‘put-offs’.

Yes I still want those Abs.

As always,

Dont forget to greet a total stranger today.

Ok its Saturday, ill let my follicles down

Good Morning peeps. Yesterday was not the best day for me. Im a fairly easy going guy, generally calm under stress, if i knew how id probably be a good poker player because im so calm.

You get the picture, at work nothing much bothers me.

I understand my role, although i work in IT, I spend most of my day with operations. My job is to support the business, make sure they have all the information they need to make good decisions and to assist in improving processes while eliminating redundancies. I am good at what i do.

(Haha sounds like s resume. No don’t call, not looking for work).

After being around for so long, i have pretty much seen it all when it comes to business processes so im able to identify areas that need improvement and suggest solution sometimes long before the user realize there is a problem.

I like to think of it this way. I have answers sometimes long before the question. I have learned its wise to wait for the question however, that way I am seen as the facilitator and not someone speaking out of turn.

(Ok I can be had for a 3 day work week mon thru weds, 4 weeks paid vacation, free parking, 120k ish yes money plus a 10% christmas bonus, that should do it for now, keep in mind humans need to grow).

Why did i have a bad day?

One of my peers told me to stop being so helpful, she said i make it sounds too easy. She was serious. A discussion followed.

Another peer ask me why do i have to give the users everything they ask for. I dont when it cant justify the cost. I had to remind him its not our job to determine requirements, ours is to support.

In both cases i had suggested simple changes to mundane tasks.

It took more time justifying my suggestions to my peers than it took to solve the problems. These people sapped my energy completely, i came home totally exhausted.

(One more thing for that dream position, oh never mind, I guess i always have to have peers, although i need a work from home option).

As always,

Dont forget to greet a total stranger today.

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How I shot myself in the right foot again. Amazing

Good Morning peeps. This past week has been a very expensive week for us, all because i was not able to think quickly on my feet. This new chain of events started a week Wednesday when i went to the parking lot to pickup my car after work. Jo went out with some friends to a wine tasting party, the plan was for me to go home to care for Panda, the pooch, ill then get Jo later at the train station, easy peasy, so good so far.

When I tried to exit the parking lot the auto door was jammed. I huffed and puffed then started to back the car back into the parking space. As i was in the process out of the corner of my eye I saw this lady walking toward me. By the time i turned the car off, texted Jo about my dilemma, the lady had turned around and walked back to the exit door.

The parking space belong to a friend who lives in the building, we rent it from her for a fraction of the cost of parking downtown Calgary where rates are in excess of $400 monthly. Yes for a parking space. What we did not know is that being a tenant does not entitle you to a spot, one has to go and request a stop for a fee which is what she did and sub-let it to us.

I needed to know the situation so i approached the lady in the parking lot. Now im a friendly kinda guy and nosy also, I had had a pretty busy day, i didn’t recall having greeted a total stranger that day so this was a great opportunity to fix that. The conversation went like this.

Me, ‘good afternoon, how are you?’

Her, ‘its a brand new door, you expect it should work.’ She seemed a little stressed.

Now at this point i should have clued in that she was the superintendent and walked away as i didn’t really belong there. Remember how i came by the space? Anyway my nurturing instincts kicked in. As i said she seemed awfully stressed. I had to get her to relax and show her that i was not upset with her.

Me. ‘I sure they will be here soon. How is your day going?’ hmmm it just came out.

Her: ‘ forget the damn day, these idiots should have been here already, we paid a lot for the door, its brand new. If you have to know, i’ve been having a bad two months’.

Ok that was my clue, run Tony run. My feet weren’t moving though.

I should have run at this point, but i had to soothe her to nurture her, to help her relieve her stress, i think she just need a hug. Haha bad thought.

Me: ‘I would think they should be here soon…..’

She started to walk away. This one got away, i was unable to help her, now I have to go find a new stranger to greet.

She was about ten feet away when she turned and asked.

She: ‘by the way, what is your stall number?’

It was at that time i realized that i was in deep dodo. No good deeds go unpunished. What does that mean anyway. I could have lied and given her a wrong number but she had already seen me park so i just told her and left.

I decided to go back to work and wait it out.

That was Wednesday, on Thursday we were told the parking rate was going up by $30, no biggie, still a bargain. Pheww dodged the bullet or so we thought. On Saturday we were out and our friend left a message to call her back. Jo called her, all i could hear was, ‘no, oh no, no way, what a big mouth, he just can’t help himself’.

Didn’t clue in, there is no way she could have been talking about me.

When she got off the phone she came right at me.

Jo:’you just dont know how to keep your mouth shut, you had to go and talk to the superintendent, now we have to give up the parking spot’.

I tried to make up a good story but there was nothing really to say.

I began to play the scene back my mind, how was i suppose to know it would be a problem? How did the super figure it out? Did i mention that the lady who was assigned to the lot is Asian?

So now we have two choices, take the train like most people or find a new spot. Thats the expensive part. Choices, choices, opportunity to meet new people i guess. This past week we took the train 2 days and drove 3 days, new challenges ahead. Im confused.

As usual,

Dont forget to greet a total stranger today.