Its time to shop

Good Morning peeps. Whether i need to or not, this is the time of year to go clothes shopping. Yes like most things that involve going to the mall, i am totally against.

Most often i go with Jo although i must say its not fun. She is always insisting i try on before i buy. My appraoch is just get what you want and keep the receipt in case.

Yesterday i went to the Bay looking for shirts. There must have been a sale on because there long tables of dress shirts and lots of shoppers, mostly women.

Women are different shoppers they pick up everything and look. I just want to grab and run. I stood for a while observing, trying to determine what is popular but it was not working. I am really bad at shopping. My style is to hone eeen quickly on what i want and buy. I am not sure why i decided to follow the crowd.

I saw this guy about my age and dressed similiar and decided to observe him.

I remember when i was a kid, at Easter we would get very colourful tissue paper and make kites. Pretty kites. Thats the image that came to mind looking at this guy’s selections. Whats wrong with the shirt makers, why are they making pretty shirts for men.

I bailed, maybe ill go back today or better yet wait for Santa, Jo, to do this.

As always

Dont forget to greet a total stranger today.

There was a time…

Good Morning peeps. There was a time when everything you heard or read was true, no matter the source.

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My dad told me he swam from Anguilla to St Kitts. He told me how he met my mom, she was cooking dumplings and the got so big they fell out the pot, he happen to be going by saw what happened and retrieved them for her. All true.

My brother once caught a Jumby put it in a bottle, place it in a crocus bag with a big stone and toss it in the bay. All true stories.

I remember the one and this must be true for true read it in the newspaper that man walked on the moom.

Well today you cant believe a thing you hear or read especially on the internet, all fabrication. I miss the good old days when honesty ruled.

As always

Dont forget to greet a total stranger today.

One of the nice things about ageing

Good Moring peeps. One of the nice things about ageing is that you can get away with saying things that  would not have gone over too well when you were younger.

I go to bed before 10pm and if im luckly the alarm waits me up at 5am but oftentimes im up an hour or two before that and it can be annoying.

The first thing i do is make sure i dont need to pee, else ill never be able to go back to sleep. How do i know that? Once in a while id be too lazy to walk the 10 feet to the bathroom and pay.

I try to make the best of the idle time. Its actually a great time to travel in the past and fix things that you may have failed at when you were young. The mind is a wonderful thing. For example, I was not very good at cricket, the truth be told i was afraid to getting hit in the family jewels. Well in my mind travels, im a great cricketers. I can simulate a game in my head, its totally awsome, fans cheering. You should try it.

When i was new a puberty i was very shy. I would listen to guys talk about their conquests and just imagine it was me. These guys would not tell stories like ‘i sat on a rock for 3 hours and caught a lil fish’, no it was more like ‘man the fish was jumping in my buckets i had so much i walked away, but ill be back tomorrow for more’. Except it was not about fish, they were talking about sex and who would not want a bucket of fish.

Now i was not good at fishing, i sat around for hours and would not catch a thing, when the fish bite i was always late responding, wink, wink, methaphors right. Guess what im old now and unlike the cricket game im not able to retify that problem in my travels back to my youth. I guess some things are just what they are.

As always

Dont forget to greet a total stranger.

Life just goes on

Good Morning peeps. Its been at least a week since i was last here, how time flies.

So now ive decided, June 2016.

What have i been up to? Just routine stuff, nothing special. As you get older you tend to get less annoyed at things. Last night i went to bed at 9:30pm and was up at 3am. Now in the old days id be fussing, twisting and turning worrying about being tired at work and how much money i dont have. Things of the past.

This morning i just layed there trying to plan for retirement, where are we going to live, 6 months in the north, 6 months in the south. Should i get my long life deam, a hobby chicken farm with fancy pigeons. Then i started wondering who was going to look after my birds while i was in the south sunning. So many things to start planning for.

What usually happens at that time of the day and messes up your good time, yes the big question, will we have enough money. I stared wishing i could just fall asleep.

As always

Dont forget to greet a total stranger today

Babe, you are like a Fraco on a hot sunny day. a repost

I am a very lucky man; I grew up in a safe home in a safe place in Trafalgar Village by the Bay, Limekiln Bay. You know they say it takes a village to raise a child? Well that was my experience. Sometimes too much raising if you ask me, I had lots of surrogate ‘parents’ always looking over me, anytime I did something that boys do that parents don’t approve, the news would travel from mouth to mouth, someone would shout, ‘look Carter boy doing so and so, quick someone go tell Morm’, that’s what everyone called my mother. They didn’t need cell phones.

Trafalgar Village by the Bay, Limekiln Bay was not a big place, it was bounded by the sloping mountains to the north, green lush sugarcane fields to the West and ended by the sea shore.  I made it sound so romantic.

When I started to go to school, I can recall my boundaries quite clearly a couple hundred feet up and down Cardin Avenue, where everyone was my mom’s friend. I then graduated to going through the alleys mainly the one just above us, my uncle lived right on the corner, yeah he kept an eye on me.

I remember one time I was running behind an open vehicle across the alley and hitched a ride, when I got home a couple minutes later, my mom was waiting for me with a belt.  Yes way too much raising.

Eventually my horizons expanded, times takes care of most things.

Just up the Village, the School at the top of Cardin Avenue where I attended as a tiny bopper, there was a water pipe. As you can well image it was a popular spot. We would gather around the pipe at recess time to replenish our body with water. We did not line up in a queue; we fought for position to be first. The girls also pushed, none of this gentleman stuff, it was dog eat dog. We would race to the pipe and use our body to block others from getting too close as we fought to be first or next for a drink of water.

Sometimes an adult would get there at about the same time with a bucket to collect water and we would have to wait until they were satisfied and then the pushing would resume. You would think that lining up would have made more sense.  I am thinking that maybe it was at one of those forays that I may have met my lifelong friend Junior. He lived just around the corner from the school in St Johnston Village and I lived down the road in Trafalgar Village.

In those days, there was up the Village and down the Village, we didn’t always get along.

Today I proudly say that I am a Trafalgar Man but back then it was a social disadvantage. I don’t quite know why others saw the Trafalgar people that way because folks who lived in other parts of the village were just as poor. Also I am not sure when I made the decision that it did not matter, now I just love saying it.

I was raised in Trafalgar Village by the Bay, Limekiln Bay, classy eh.

If you don’t know me, I blog regularly (blog site). In one of my posts I wrote about always wanting to write stories. When I was a kid there was a ‘pen pal’ section in the local paper, I would write to most of the people on the list, both boys and girls. As you can well imagine I would write tall stories about me, like I was tall, muscular, and handsome. Hahaha, I am actually very short, back then I was only skin and bones, ok one out of three.

Most of the girls would write back and I had lots of ‘special friends’. Back then I would write my address as: Cardin Avenue, Trafalgar/Fort Lands/Basseterre/St Kitts. Of course it is not correct; Fort Lands is the affluent community to the east, but it looked good, of course the people I was writing to would have no idea, I guess it was all in my head.

Today the postman might have a problem finding me with that address, but when I was a kid the postman Pemberton knew exactly who I was. I probably received the most mail in the Village.

A side note, I actually did meet two of my pen pals in Antigua, a male, during the Cadets camping trip and a female, a year later when the St Kitts football team visited Antigua for a tournament. Pretty cool eh although I recalled the girl also told tall stories.

At the school up at the top of Cardin Avenue and inside the Methodist church grounds, Junior and I knew each other but we were not friends as yet. In fact it was the start of a long competitive relationship that lasted until we got to Grammar School several years later.

I don’t remember much about him at that school but when we got to middle school things really heated up between us.  We were both good athletes, I would tell him that he was better to distract him, but I am from Trafalgar always looking for an advantage. That last part is going to drive him crazy if he reads this.

Ms Williams the Head Mistress at the middle school By the Pasture that we both attended, loved sports and would randomly select teams for us to compete in different activities. I am sure she kept Junior and I apart because she knew we would perform better as competitors. Of course we would join forces when we played against other schools. In Cricket he was a really good batsman, I was a Great Bowler. In Football he was a pretty good striker, I was Great Everywhere. He kicked my butt in ping pong.

Getting the picture? I was obviously better. Al l is fair in love and war.

In addition to the school sports there were ‘Inter Village’ sports. Yeah we clashed often; bruggadom. The older boys in the village took great pleasure seeing us going at each other. I don’t recall ever having a physical fight with him, we may have and despite the fact that he had a bigger body mass, 3 or 4 pounds, he would tell me, I probably would have embarrassed him.

I have a great imagination, eh.

If you know Junior you know he has great communication skills, I don’t have those skills, well actually I didn’t then, I went through the King Speech Process (google).  Junior could debate any subject and would win most of the time. I avoided oratory conflict with him, but life is not perfect. Got my butt kicked a few times, you would think I would get it after the first time. I am Tony.

As a recognized athlete we had responsibilities that came along with the role. People looked up to us and we were popular with the girls. Don’t hate, as my son would say. Anyway, Junior was great with the ladies. He just had a way with words. He would recite poems to the ladies without laughing, like he was serious. If I was struggling meeting a certain female, Junior would smooth out the bumps for me. Like I said, he was really good with words.

If you know him, the next time you see him ask him to tell you his full name. Make sure he rhymes.

Things were going really well, life could not get any better and then we went to Grammar School. Add smart to the athlete thing, wow, we were superstars. We got placed on the same intramural team, the Red House, Junior and I were inseparable.

Then entered Em.

I am not sure how and when, he just slid into my world, now there were 3 of us. Em and I did not have the growing pains; by the time he came along we were already wearing long pants.

Ok we were a team, great athletes (I said it), smart, good looking, we had lots in common. We called ourselves the JETs. I always hated being the last letter in the word JET. You see was first right? Tried to change it but nothing else made sense.

Junior’s sister made us some shirts so we could look alike for the dances at Christmas.

To make life even more interesting, Em also communicated well, poems and all, he was smooth.

This all happened during the big Motown years. I think my buddies got their ‘poems’ from the songs of the day. Both Em and Junior could recite an entire Motown song to a young lady. For me, with a speech impediment, it was just not possible. I was sure they kept cue cards, although I had never seen any. Sometimes I would just listen to the two of them talk and dream of the day when I could be like them.

A conversation might go like this.

Say Junior heard that Em’s chick is putting a ‘bite’ on him and decided to tell him. Then the opera would begin. You have to use your imagination a bit.

Jr:  “ I Heard It Through The Grapevine – Marvin Gaye”

Em in shock:  “My Girl – Temptations”.

Jr trying to console: “Ain’t No Mountain High Enough – Marvin Gaye & Tammi Terrell”

Em still can’t believe it: “Just My Imagination Running Away With Me – Temptations”

Jr  telling him to move on:  “Shop Around – Miracles”

They would actually recite a few versus of the songs, I would be jealous of course. Girls like that kind of talk.

I was not totally hopeless, being from Trafalgar I had my ways.

One day I was with this girl I had been trying to get close to for some time. I ran into her by the local square downtown.  I thought about Em and Junior and wondered what they would say to impress her. Could not think of anything, then I saw this vendor across the street selling ice treats and I blurted out:

Me:  ‘babe you are like a ‘Fraco’ on a hot sunny day’.

She: ‘with what topping?’

That was not the response I was expecting. Now what, where are your friends when you need them?



Bucket list

Good Morning peeps. As i go into the last 1/3 of my life im begoning to think of things ill like to do before i move on. My list is very long, its mostly about conquering my fears and inhibitions. Yes i have lots of those.

Jo went to a concert last night and i decided to go to bed early. I was in the bathroom down to my briefs and i looked in the mirror. Wow.

As you know we have been on a healty diet lifestyle and we are getting close to looking the way we did when we met back in the last century.

Something i was always curious about is a nudist colony. Hahaha no im not a pervert i want to just experience it. Now all i have to do is convince Jo.

This morning i decided to bring it up and break her in slowly.

Me. Jo i think we should have a naked day once a month where we get up, get naked, have breakfast, clean, exercise,…… all in the nude.

Jo. No

That was final. Maybe ill try again next summer when its hot outside.

As always

Dont forget to greet a total stranger today.

Haha just a little fib

Good Morning peeps.  Ok yesterday i kinda left you hanging about my snooping on some total strangers.

Remember when the dude said:

‘Im serious she pulled it out right there on the train’. You may have to go back and read yesyerday.

He was actually talking talking about his cell phone.  His new girlfriend wanted to know who kept texting him. It was an old girlfriend. Hahaaha.

Ok maybe it was not funny.

This whole weekend ill be a bachelor, Jo on the move again, San Diego.  If anyone need any yardwork or construction work or painting done, hmmm dont call me  ill be resting up in case i have a busy week ahead.

As always

Dony forget to greet a total stranger today.

My habits.

Good Morning peeps. Im feeling a little fustrated today although im not entirely sure why.

My life is a bit of a paradox. We all need routine. As a parent we know how important that is to a child. But do we ever grow out of it?

I had a business once, software development, after working for the man for lots of years. My business routine on most days was getting up in the morning getting the kids off to school then walking to the basement and working. Sometimes ill go to visit my customers

That went on for about 5 years, then i got bored shifted my focus to contracting myself out. I still supported my software. The best part, i was able to leave home after the kids left and be back in time to meet them at 3:30 as they got off the bus.

Then the kids grew out of me. Did not want me to ‘baby’ them anymore.

We moved to Calgary and i found a job back working for the man. Routine.

Now i get up at 5am go to work, do a great job, leave work at 4pm go home, hmmm ok thats enough info.

Why the paradox? I hate routine. Thats why i started my own company. Unlike most men, i found a way to be with the kids. Guess what, to succeed i had to develop routines, which i hate.

I need to invent a new way, avoiding routine.

As always

Dont forget to greet a total stranger today.

The Children Home

Good Morning peeps. When i was really little i remember going to a garden party at the Childrens Home (add to your FB friends list) at the foot of the street where we lived. I dont remember if it was a fundraiser or just a fun party. In either case it is forever etched in my mind.

I also remember walking by the home, the fence was really high and covered in vines, i would look through the fence admiring the beautiful grounds and wondering how the chrildren who lived there ended up there.

I have some cousins that actually lived there and long after we had grown up one of them told me that her parents had gone off to England and had temporarily left them there until they got settled.

I remember the lady that ran the place name was Nurse, haha thats what we called her, i dont think that was her name.

Why am i reminiscing. Well this past couple of weeks i received a notice that the home was having their annual fundraiser, 2k walk and 5k run. The ad is posted on my timeline.

Of course i cant go to the fundraiser although i would have loved to. Instead i decided ill try and raise $500 by Christmas for the home and I need your help. No you wont have to send me any money, all you will have to do is purchase a book on Amazon. Amazon send me some money and ill get it to the home.

One of the nice things is that you can support a local SKN author in the process, a win win.

Its that easy.

Ill will give more details over the next sort while.

As always

Dont forget to greet a total stranger today


Good Morning peeps. Yesterday i watched two Hawks in the sky not too far from my house doing their thing as i sat in my easy chair gazing out the window. How is that for flowering it up, im practising.

I can only guess that their bellies were full and they were out enjoying what else life have to offer.

They were poetry in motion, graceful, they must have been experiencing euphoria. I was thinking that it has been a long time since ive had a real passion for life. The kind you experience….never mind.

I am relatively happy and most of my needs are being met, but that uuumph is missing since my early days on the football field or swimming in the ocean, perhaps its a child thing. Kids have all the fun.

I should learn to fly, hmmmm, hahaha, no not like that.

As always

Dont forget to greet a total stranger today